Monday, October 4, 2010
This year for Mallory's Birthday, she asked if she can have her ears pierced. I think it all started when she saw her cousin Kaitlyn with the cutest little earrings.
Well, I hadn't really put much thought into WHEN I would let her get them done. So I started to think a lot about it. When I was young the rule was 8. That's when I got mine done.
So I told Mallory that they would have to poke holes in her ears and that it would hurt a bit. Then we would have to clean and twist them everyday a few times and she would have to wear the same earrings for 8 weeks and keep earrings in all the time for 6 months.
She was still good with the idea.
A few weeks later we took her to the Mall. She picked her earrings. Climbed up into the chair, knowing what was coming, and sat there while they drew the dots and then pierced her ears. I wanted two people, so they could be done at the same time...you know, in case they got one done and then she decided she was out and wanted nothing to do with the second. What would we do then?! :)
One worked....the other didn't.
However, Mal didn't mind. She said, "OUCH OUCH OUCH" and wimpered for 1/2 a second. Then she let them do the other ear. She said "Ouch" once and then Dad quickly provided a sucker for her.
Jake on the other hand...well, I thought he was going to pass out with the anxiety of it all. In fact, the entire time I was having flash backs to when I was getting mine done. I can TOTALLY remember it. I remember being totally afraid of the pain of it.
So this made me think "When IS the best time to have their ears pierced?" Our plan worked PERFECT for us! I am just wondering what YOU feel is best for YOU.
One of my friends has them done on her girls when they are 3 months old. I must be honest, before talking to her, I totally didn't think this was something I could ever do. But here is the deal. She said that at 3 months her daughter slept through it. A lot less traumatic than the shots at the Drs office. Plus, they were a lot easier to clean, keep clean and take care of. I can totally see her point!
Then there was my Sister in Laws story of my cute niece. I think she was 8 or 9. Let's just say that the anticipation, to my nieces older mind, was too much. She was FREAKING out. They almost ended up with one earring, because it got so bad. The experience did not end up being a positive one.
THEN I talked to my sister about it. I asked what her "rule" was. She said that she does it when her girls WANT it done. Kaitlyn was 4 or 5. She wanted them done. Lisa told her about the pain and the cleanings, etc. She was all good with it. When the time came to get it done, she crawled right up into the chair and had them done.
Her daughter Caroline is another story. At 4 or 5 she asked. Lisa told her about the pain and cleanings. Caroline said "no thank you" and that was that. She didn't think the benefit out-weighed the consequence and both her and Lisa are just fine with that. End of story. When she wants them, she will ask again. Lisa will tell her again about what is involved. If she goes ahead the trauma of the event won't be there! :)
So, I am curious! What do you think? What are your rules? Do you HAVE rules? What is your theory behind them?