Sunday, January 31, 2010

Sending Balloons To Dawson

This funeral audio is taking a bit longer to load than expected. I will get that up tomorrow or likely Monday morning. But for now.....

Mallory was not at the funeral. She was really struggling with anxiety. We haven't talked to her much about spirit and body seperation. It is a bit beyond her. Right now she nows that Dawson is in Heaven. We have tried to show pictures or explain what Heaven is. I think she is getting it a bit more now.

Aunt Deanne Lindstrom, an amazing woman and inspiration to me, came the day that Dawson passed away. We talked about trying to help Mal understand. Deanne gave me the idea of sending balloons to Dawson. Let them go and watch them until you can't see them anymore and tell Mal they are going up to D so he can play with them. We loved the idea! Then, on the day of Dawson's funeral I noticed a huge basket of beautiful flowers with balloons attached...from Deanne of course! She is so wonderful!

On Sunday morning we were heading home and we stopped by the cemetary with balloons.
I dont' think Mal had any idea what the flowers on the ground meant or why we were standing right there, but one day, when she can understand, we will show her these pictures, and many more that were taken at the funeral.

The kids both drew pictures on their balloons for Dawson.....

Jake wrote him a cute little note!

First Mal let hers go....

Then Jake.

We watched them until they were gone. Mal, of course, wanted hers back as soon as it was gone, but she was alright when she thought that Dawson might be playing with it.

A couple of days before Dawson passed away Jake asked Ryan why people have to be burried. Kind of a hard thing to understand and a little bit difficult to think about up until that point for me.

Ryan's answer provided insight to me and a great comfort. He talked to Jake about how bodies are placed in a special bed called a casket. It is soft and clean and very special. Then that casket is placed in a vault. The vault is a box that seals and holds that casket safe. The vault, we found later, is 2,000 lbs. The lid weighs 500lbs. It fits on top of the box like a puzzle and seals and protects the casket. Then that vault is burried deep in the ground. That ground is dedicated, by the power of the Priesthood, and becomes sacred. It is a sacred place holding a sacred body safe until the Savior comes again and Dawson's body will be called from that sacred place and his spirit and body will be rejoined in the Resurrection. 

How great is that thought? I was so afraid of this part of the whole process. How could I bear it?! However, with the thought of putting my sweet Dawson's sacred body in a sacred place, to be held until we can be together again in the flesh...What a comfort! It certainly changed my perspective of the cemetary! This sacred ground holds a treasure for me. When we were able to dress his little body, we did it with the thought in mind that we were dressing his sacred little body for our next meeting! And he is wearing a white suit! Suit coat and all, thanks to his Dad, who would not give up the search until we found one! Oh, he looked so handsome! I can't wait for that day! This day is not an "if it happens" but a "When it happens", that brings a lot of comfort to me and makes me even more grateful for our Savior! Because he overcame death, we too, every one of us, will receive the same blessing! 

Alright, now go put some flowers by the headstone of someone you know and love! While you are there, think of what that dedicated piece of land represents! No, their spirits are not there, but their sacred bodies, are! Think about how grateful you are for the Savior and the Resurrection and then make a few goals for yourself, just little changes that help you stick to the course back to our Father in Heaven! Then think a bit about what that amazing day of reunion, in the flesh, will be like! Amazing!  


Rideout Family said...

What an awesome thing to do with the balloons. I love what Ryan said, I have never known how to explain that to a child, now I do. Thanks.

The Nelson's said...

A while back I found a board book at Seagull book titled "What Happens When People Die?" by Timothy Robinson. It's been a long time since I've read it and I can't seem to find it. But I remember thinking it explained it pretty well from a LDS perspective. I'm sure you've thought of it, but you could also try the hand and glove analogy. I love the balloon idea and Jake's note. What a sweetheart. Ryan's explantion is great. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience. I've learned a lot from you and your family. Love ya

Brian and Kayla said...

Brian and I love visiting cemeteries. We too feel such a special peace when we are around the bodies of our loved ones. We have visited our aunts and Grandma in PG, Brian's brother and niece in CO, Brian's Grandpa and other relatives in SLC, and our ancestry in Rexburg! Each experience has been wonderful and we truly feel a sacred spirit near each grave. We are so happy that we can visit Dawson again and again throughout our lives. Thanks for the post.

Julie said...

Thanks for posting the insight about the grave. I have struggled with that thought a lot and I really like the new perspective you have given me. You guys are amazing! Thanks for sharing your strength and insight through this hard time!

Saundra said...

Love your insight on being buried. Jackson has asked us many times about bodies being buried and why and I am going to have to pass on the way you explained it to him.

I love the balloons and letting them go.

You guys are the best. We love you guys.

I can't believe you have so much snow! Well, I guess I can since you are in Idaho. I just get used to not having much down here. I miss it.

Hope you are doing well.
Love, the Nye's

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